Spanking isn't rape

In some sex offender treatment circles the therapists force them to refer to such things as touching a boy's penis and giving him oral sex as rape. I am officially categorized as a "violent offender" when I didn't do anything the least bit violent to my young friend. It was hard to get used to using that language at first, but it didn't pay to argue terminology with the people who have control over my freedom. I feel shame when I look back at what a tool I have been in the program. When a new person would enter the group I would go along with the group and the therapist in pressuring him to consider himself a rapist. Even those who's only crime was looking at child pornography were rapists. They had raped their victims "with their eyes." I thought I was being a friend to the guys when I would tell them to just forget the common usage of the word rape and just for the duration of treatments lets go along with the therapists and pretend that fondle means rape, kiss means rape, blowjob means rape, consensual sex with anyone under the age of 18 means rape, looking at pictures means rape.

source: Comment 'Spanking isn't rape' by 'Owl'; boychat.org/messages/1249920.htm; Boychat; 30 April 2011