Death of the artistic girl in the age of (in)tolerance

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Censorship is never a girl's friend. It never has been historically. Let's be clear about one thing. Girlhood is a construct. Being feminine is a construct. What this means is that girls are required to act a role, or what Shakespeare says is playing a role on the world stage. Such does not mean that "being a girl" is who she is. She is biologically a girl, but being a girl is something different. Yes, she has a vagina and will get breasts. Yes, she can get pregnant and give birth to children, but that is biological, not feminine. I have a penis, but nothing is stopping me for "being a girl." In fact, some guys are really good at it. In fact, sometimes, in my darkest fantasies, I play the Lolita. But our society, the director in the chair, has other plans for you being you. I left that stage a long time ago. I fear I failed miserably at being an actor. [...]

That is why we have sexual fantasy: to think and do things we "normally" cannot. If your fantasy involves sex with your partner, then why do you even need it unless you are at long distance? Those that defend this position, I think, are scared of the "sex terror." The healthy sex folks are afraid of sex, so they try and make sex less traumatic by naming it "healthy" or "safe" sex. In reality, sexuality is seldom concrete or that simple. What I share here is difficult because I am writing about kids, art, and sexuality, but before we scream censorship (which means let's run and hide), why don't you all face this down with me? Let me be the teacher, you the student? I hope to put my three masters' and Ph.D. to good use. [...]

When a boy sees his penis, he is told to equate it to Satan's will. When a girl sees a penis, it's the devil, and when she looks at her vagina, she is told such is the pit of shame and death, the death terror and sex terror serenade in a confidence-killing dance. She learns to hate herself and be ashamed of her body. She learns that sex is trauma and it is child abuse. None of that has to be true, but in our culture, we often manufacture trauma for profit. We misunderstand that sexuality and attraction have nothing to do with trauma. That trauma was forced upon us. [...]

My point is that all of you meet "pedophiles" every day and don't know it. You cannot simply lock people up or kill those you hate. That is a stupid, emotionally-driven reaction. My advice is to learn about them from them and from responsible sources, not Wikipedia. If we put so little investment in knowing them, then we put little investment in knowing child abuse and prevention. [...]

As noted in research recently published by experts Robert Lehmann and Sara Jahnke, when we stigmatize those with pedophilia, our shaming of people we know cannot change their attraction, they are more targeted than toward those with higher risk in other areas (See "Stigmatization of paraphilias and psychological conditions linked to sexual offending" in The Journal of Sex Research). Our hate of them is not based on reason but emotion. Such distress may lead to pedophilic disorder and to actual sex offending. In this way, our hate contributes to the abuse we say we hate. This hatred has little to do with our wanting to protect kids and more to do with our fear about ourselves, our own terror. I see few real indications that our society cares about kids. [...]

They see the girl above [see original website] and the hyperbole starts: "If you were her dad would you dress her like that?" Translation: "Wow, this girl is attractive for a kid; do you guys notice?" "If she were older, I'd say damn." Translation: "I already said damn, didn't I?" [...]

[S]exual attraction is fluid. Laws are laws and people will still be people. Never in history has censorship worked. Governments like it because it gives them a reason to control our bodies. That comes in handy when they decide to own our bodies and minds, all for the sake of protecting your children.

source: Article 'Death of the Artistic Girl in the Age of (In)tolerance' by Earl Yarington;; Baltimore Post-examiner; 16 April 2020